DEAR DEIDRE: I’M a man in my mid-fifties and recently met an old school friend on Facebook. We have been texting, messaging and calling one another for months, even though I am already settled in an OK relationship.
She is divorced but has been in a relationship for six months.
She had a routine breast screening recently which showed she needed further investigations.
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After a biopsy revealed cancer, she is due to have the tumour removed and undergo breast reconstruction surgery.
We aim to meet before this happens. If it all goes well we are talking about being together forever.
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We both know there will be a fallout when we end our current relationships but we are both 55 and life is short.
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DEIDRE SAYS: Her cancer worry will have underlined life’s fragility for both of you but make sure you aren’t rushing things.
There’s no guarantee things would work out for you with your friend.
Her diagnosis will have come as a frightening shock and she faces months of uncertainty. For support talk to Macmillan Cancer Support (macmillan.org.uk, 0808 808 0000).
Take one sure step at a time. After all, you haven’t actually seen each other for years.
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